Saturday, January 10, 2009

IUI #1.....failed.

Well, the visitor that we least wanted to see officially showed up - she's pretty bummed. Happy is not a word I would use to describe my current demeanor as well. I guess that's the downside of being so optimistic. The higher you ride the farther you fall.

The good news is her progesterone levels were up this week confirming an actual ovulation - they were low the last time we had them checked. We only got to do one IUI because of New Year's day being a holiday. This month we'll do two and then head off to Colorado to go skiing - which I am sure will do little to keep her mind off things but it should be fun. More good news - she got to enjoy a guilt free cup of coffee this morning. Ahhh, the little things....

Maybe I'll get her to have some wine tonight. She's been drinking sparkling cranberry juice out of a wine glass - she killed a whole bottle in 12 hours.

This morning I am going to attempt to cheer her up - I have some gift certificates from Xmas that I'm going to make her use at the mall. Shoes, purses, puppies, movies with Anne Hathaway or Keri Russell - what ever it takes to cheer her up. Hell, maybe I should get her another puppy. :) If you knew my wife, she's about as girly as they get and LOVES these types of things - especially puppies. Its her drug of choice. My dislike (except for dogs) for them is trumped by me mission to make her smile. I'll watch a chick flick if I have to...

So wish me luck and thank you all for all the positive support thus far - it really does soften the blow.


  1. Oh I am so so sorry. Those negatives are so very hard to take and just a heart break.

    You are really so wonderful with your plan though. It just is so great to see how much you love and adore her.

  2. I'm so sorry! The first BFN (Big Fat Negative) is always the worst. Not that it gets much easier, but you always have the most hope for the first one. Reality then sets in.

    It is great of you to try and cheer her up. She really will need that and I hope it does a little something to cheer you up as well.

    I'll keep my fingers crossed for the next one!

  3. I'm so sorry to hear that your IUI failed. The first is always the hardest. Well, they are all hard...but that first is the worst.

    You are a sweetie to want to cheer her up. Don't take it personally if she just wants to be alone!

  4. I'm so sorry to hear that things didn't work out this cycle. Like Betty said, and in my opinion, the first negative is always the hardest.

    You're a good man to want to cheer her up...sending you both lots of ((hugs)).

  5. So sorry! We went through 4 failed attempts and on our last and final attempt (money was running out and credit cards were getting maxed) we got pregnant with our triplets. We tried to attempt two IUIs, but that did not happen :-)

    You are SO sweet for cheering her up! Puppies are always fun and cheerful!

    Good Luck at your next attempt!

  6. I am so sorry. I will be keeping my fingers crossed for the next one.